Today is my grandfather’s birthday. If you have heard me speak, you may have heard about my grandfather. My grandfather passed away 4 years ago after a rough fight with prostate cancer. I remember him at the strangest times, often when I have accomplishments I wish I could share with him.
It is easy to put someone who is deceased on a pedestal that can’t be reached. I don’t want to do that. My grandfather was far from perfect but he definitely taught me some of life’s most important lessons: These are simple principals, but he actually lived and breathed them.
Give because you can
It wasn’t until he passed that I realized the true importance of this. My grandfather was incredibly generous. He didn’t take out a billboard and advertise it, he just did things because they were the right thing to do. At his funeral, I met a woman my grandfather bought a car for. Yes, a car. He had no obligation or moral responsibility. But she was struggling, and he felt it was the right thing to do. He gave because he could, always, without the expectation of return. In the last year of his life, my grandfather knew he was dying. He knew he wouldn’t live through the year. Despite this, he underwent painful experimental medical treatments. I firmly believe he did this to help the future generation of cancer victims, knowing full well, that the pain and suffering his treatment caused would never help him personally. Give because you can without the expectation of return.
Honesty is the best policy
Grandpa was a wheeler & a dealer, but he was successful because he was honest about his intentions and he was respectful of those he was dealing with. In this new shift of customer thinking, we have a tendency to think sales are “bad”. Sales are not bad, it is how they are handled. People knew my grandfather was selling them. There was no doubt about it, he was a salesperson through and through but they enjoyed the experience. He was not deceitful, deceptive or dishonest.
Success doesn’t fall in one’s lap. Are you shocked to hear that? It takes consistent work over a period of time. My grandfather was successful because he showed up, day after day. When people said no to him, he figured out a different way. Success rarely happens with luck. It takes hard work, a thought out plan, persistence, and a willingness to adapt.
Never give up
Grandpa taught me that “no” doesn’t mean no. It means not now or circumstances are not right, but come at me a different way. If you understand the wants and needs of the other party, it is much easier to turn disinterest or a flat out no into a solid yes. The obvious solution may be a no- get creative to find a way to make it all a YES if it makes sense for everyone. Some of the people who told my grandfather NO later became his most regular source of business and referrals.
The last lesson is probably the most important lesson of all- family first. Despite how hard he worked, I don’t recall a Sunday or a birthday in my childhood that we didn’t have a family dinner. Family always came first. Our economy is rough right now. We all are trying to work so hard and yet we are distracted by many shiny objects. Shiny objects go away. Put your family first.
People will remember what you do, not what you say. Treat them right.
This photo was taken in Kentfield (Marin County) by the creek path with Mt. Tam in the distance.
We often spend our weekends in Santa Cruz, my home away from home. This morning we tried to escape outdoors for a moment of sunshine between some rough winter storms. I was able to capture this shot at Natural Bridges in Santa Cruz. Natural Bridges is a California State Park. Only one of the “natural bridges” remains.
We were disappointed we couldn’t see the ocean, but I am thrilled with this photo of Point Reyes in the fog. It feels mystical.
The elevator to success is out of order. You’ll have to use the stairs…one step at a time.
I have had this website for many years and it has gone through many transformations. In recent years, this site has been purely informational about who I am and what I do. I have decided to consolidate some of the other places I share information and bring them in to this blog. For this this reason, I am starting a blog here.
What is it going to be about? Photos, random musings and whatever else I decide. This is my personal site, so anything goes!
I head up marketing strategy and communications for Trulia’s industry services division. Trulia was founded in 2005 and, as of September 2012, is publicly traded on the NYSE. My team oversees industry and partner marketing, events, social media and industry education efforts. Previously, as Head of Industry Training & Engagement, I directed industry engagement, education and social business initiatives for Trulia’s business services division.
Prior to joining Trulia, I was Co-Founder and COO of the Social Media Marketing Institute (SMMI). SMMI developed marketing and technology training programs for organizations, associations and small businesses. SMMI was selected by the National Association of REALTORS® to redesign the e-PRO® Technology Certification Program from the ground up. e-PRO® is the only technology certification of its kind to be officially recognized by the National Association of REALTORS®, the largest trade association in North America.
I have spoken to organizations and associations around the country including the Department of External Affairs, the National Association of REALTORS®, Inman News, ReTech South, Association Executives Institute (AEI), BlogWorld New Media Expo, and more.
- Finalist in the 2010 Inman Innovator Awards
- Finalist for the 2010 National Association of REALTORS® Center for REALTOR® Technology Spotlight Awards
- Winner of The Junior League Of San Francisco’s Melissa Harrington Hughes Leadership Award for leadership overseeing a volunteer committee of 80, raising more than $200k for bay area community programs
- Quoted in a range of national media outlets, including The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Smart Money, Money Magazine, CNN Money and more
Specialties: Partner and field marketing, content marketing, social business, demand generation, event management and crisis communications.
I am an uber community advocate. I love to fundraise and volunteer. Recently I served as an Executive Vice President on the Board of the Kentfield Schools Foundation and as Provisional Education Chair for the Junior League of San Francisco, overseeing training for almost 200 new members.
I chaired the award winning Junior League of San Francisco Home Tour, Give My Regards to Broadway in 2006 and earned the Junior League of San Francisco’s Melissa Harrington Hughes Leadership Award for my effort. I have worked with a variety of other community organizations including the Nancy’s Club, Marin Family Service Agency, St. Jude Children’s Hospital, the San Francisco Symphony, Booker T. Washington Community Service Center and more.
I live in Marin County, just across the Golden Gate Bridge from San Francisco. I am a mom, a lover of shoes, my mac, chocolate and great wine.
While I am hyper-connected, I love being disconnected to spend time with kids, travel, or enjoy the great outdoors.
You can often find me at my second home in Santa Cruz County, where my family lives.